{"id":48749,"date":"2022-04-12T21:12:45","date_gmt":"2022-04-12T18:12:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/new.mavikadin.com\/?p=48749"},"modified":"2024-09-16T12:31:30","modified_gmt":"2024-09-16T09:31:30","slug":"teselli-etmeye-calisirken-bu-sozleri-soylemeyin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tgrthaber.com\/mavikadin\/teselli-etmeye-calisirken-bu-sozleri-soylemeyin\/","title":{"rendered":"Teselli etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken bu s\u00f6zleri s\u00f6ylemeyin!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Uzman Psikolog Asl\u0131 Y\u00fccesan, derin ac\u0131lardan sonra ya\u015fan\u0131lan ac\u0131 s\u00fcrecinin en sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u015fekilde atlat\u0131labilmesi i\u00e7in kad\u0131n ve erkeklerin duygusal ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131na y\u00f6nelik davran\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fine dikkat \u00e7ekti. Y\u00fccesan, erkeklerin hislerini belli etmeden ac\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 ancak kad\u0131nlar\u0131n temas etme ve sar\u0131lma gibi durumlara hislerinin kar\u015f\u0131 tarafa yans\u0131t\u0131lmas\u0131nda daha \u00e7ok ihtiya\u00e7 duyduklar\u0131n\u0131 anlatt\u0131.<\/p>\n

Ac\u0131badem Eski\u015fehir Hastanesi Uzman Klinik Psikolog Asl\u0131 \u00d6zsoy Y\u00fccesan, ki\u015filerin hayatta \u00e7ok sevdikleri, de\u011fer verdikleri ve duygusal ba\u011f kurduklar\u0131 kimselerden ayr\u0131lmalar\u0131 nedeniyle ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 duygusal y\u0131k\u0131m\u0131n i\u00e7inden \u00e7\u0131kabilmek i\u00e7in bir s\u00fcre derin ac\u0131y\u0131 hissetmek i\u00e7in kendilerine izin vermeleri gerekti\u011fini ifade etti ve bu s\u00fcrenin ki\u015fiden ki\u015fiye g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015febilece\u011fini ancak ortalama olarak en az 6 ay ile en fazla 1,5 y\u0131l aras\u0131nda olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini vurgulayarak ekledi: \u2018\u2019 Bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te f\u0131rsat varsa g\u00fcven duydu\u011funuz veya huzur buldu\u011fumuz yak\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131za sar\u0131lmak, kayb\u0131n arkas\u0131ndan konu\u015fmak iyi gelebilir.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018\u2019SESS\u0130ZCE YANINDA DURAB\u0130L\u0130RS\u0130N\u0130Z\u2019\u2019<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Psikolog Asl\u0131 \u00d6zsoy Y\u00fccesan, \u00f6l\u00fcm haberinin nas\u0131l olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini ifade ederken \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yledi: \u2018\u2019 Bazen \u00f6l\u00fcm haberinin \u015fokuyla a\u011flayan, feryat eden ki\u015fileri teskin etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken iyi niyetli de olsa o anda kabullenemeyece\u011fi ya da tepki duyaca\u011f\u0131 s\u00f6zler s\u00f6ylenmemeli. O ki\u015fi a\u011fl\u0131yorsa a\u011flamas\u0131na ya da feryat etmesine izin verilmeli. Ki\u015finin ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ac\u0131yla verdi\u011fi tepkileri ifade edebilmesi \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli ve bu durum d\u0131\u015fardan gelen etkilerle kesintiye u\u011framamal\u0131. En do\u011fru yakla\u015f\u0131m onun yan\u0131nda sessiz kalarak \u2018ben yan\u0131nday\u0131m’ duygusunu hissettirmek, gerekirse sar\u0131larak bu duygu g\u00fc\u00e7lendirilebilir.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

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\u2018\u2019TESELL\u0130 ETMEYE \u00c7ALI\u015eIRKEN ACILARI KIYASLAMAYIN\u2019\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n

Derin bir ac\u0131 i\u00e7inde olan birine en yak\u0131nlar\u0131ndan gelen teselli c\u00fcmlelerinin anla\u015f\u0131labilir bir durum oldu\u011funu s\u00f6ylerken ekledi: \u2018\u2019 Bazen yak\u0131n\u0131n\u0131 kaybetmi\u015f ki\u015fiye s\u00f6ylenen teselli c\u00fcmleleri iyi gelse de bazen de anlams\u0131z ve sa\u00e7ma gelebilir. Teselli c\u00fcmleleri aras\u0131ndan en yanl\u0131\u015f olan\u0131 ise di\u011fer ki\u015finin kendi hayat\u0131ndan veya ac\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00f6rnek vermesidir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc herkesin kaybetti\u011fi ki\u015fi ile yak\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131, ili\u015fkisi, ba\u011f\u0131 ve onun yoklu\u011fu ile imtihan\u0131 ki\u015fiye \u00f6zg\u00fcd\u00fcr. Ac\u0131lar k\u0131yaslanmamal\u0131d\u0131r\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

Psikolog Asl\u0131 \u00d6zsoy Y\u00fccesan, yas yani derin ac\u0131n\u0131n en sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 hali ile atlat\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini ifade ederken, sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z bir yas s\u00fcrecini \u015f\u00f6yle anlatt\u0131: \u2018\u2019 Bu ki\u015filer bedensel hastal\u0131klara yakalanabilirler. Bu s\u00fcreci ertelemek veya bast\u0131rmak ki\u015fiyi farkl\u0131 ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klara s\u00fcr\u00fckleyebilir. Olumsuz duygu durumlar\u0131 artarsa depresyon gibi baz\u0131 ruhsal sorunlar\u0131n ya\u015fanmas\u0131 s\u00f6z konusu olabilir.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

‘\u2018KADINLAR DI\u015eA VURUYOR, ERKEKLER DONUKLA\u015eIYOR\u2019\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n

Y\u00fccesan, yas s\u00fcrecinin ki\u015fiden ki\u015fiye farkl\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6stermesinin yan\u0131 s\u0131ra cinsiyetin de ki\u015finin bu s\u00fcreci nas\u0131l ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 konusunda etkili oldu\u011funu anlatt\u0131: \u2018\u2019 Kad\u0131nlar dokunma, sar\u0131lma gibi sevdikleri ki\u015filerle temas etmeye, kayb\u0131n arkas\u0131ndan konu\u015fmaya, e\u015fyalar\u0131n\u0131 saklamaya, an\u0131lar\u0131 \u00e7ok\u00e7a yad etmeye, a\u011f\u0131t yakmak gibi d\u0131\u015fa vuruma e\u011filim g\u00f6sterirken, erkekler bu tip duygu aktar\u0131mlar\u0131ndan uzak duruyor, duygular\u0131 yans\u0131tamadan daha donuk, dura\u011fan bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 ge\u00e7irebiliyorlar. Problem \u00e7\u00f6zme oda\u011f\u0131nda kalarak durumu hemen normalle\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorlar.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018\u2019KABULLEN\u0130\u015e EVRES\u0130NE GE\u00c7EM\u0130YORSA TERAP\u0130 ALMALI\u2019\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n

Psikolog Y\u00fccesan, derin ac\u0131 ya\u015fayan ki\u015finin evresini tamamlay\u0131p toparlanmaya ge\u00e7emedi\u011fi durumlarda veya toparlanmak istiyor ama bunu nas\u0131l yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilemiyorsa bir uzmandan terapi almas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini ifade etti. \u2018\u2019 Yas terapisindeki ama\u00e7 yastaki ki\u015fiyi rahatl\u0131\u011fa kavu\u015fturmaktan \u00e7ok; duygular\u0131na odaklanan, an\u0131larla olan ba\u011flant\u0131lar\u0131n bizi nas\u0131l etkiledi\u011fini fark ettiren, y\u00fczle\u015fmelerin sa\u011fland\u0131\u011f\u0131 seanslar ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirilerek ‘kabul’ edi\u015f ve hayat\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrebilme yollar\u0131 g\u00f6stermektir.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

Psikolog Y\u00fccesan: \u2018\u2019 Yas terapisi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerimizi daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 k\u0131lar, ba\u015fka kay\u0131plara kar\u015f\u0131 tahamm\u00fcl\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc art\u0131r\u0131r, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n kay\u0131plar\u0131nda veya cenaze t\u00f6renlerinde daha sa\u011fduyulu davranmam\u0131za yol a\u00e7ar, ki\u015finin yeni \u015feylere merak\u0131 geli\u015fir, an\u0131lar\u0131 canl\u0131 tutup kaybetti\u011fi ki\u015fiyi daha iyi hat\u0131rlayabilir\u201d diyerek terapinin ki\u015fiye kazan\u0131mlar\u0131ndan da bahsetti.<\/p>\n

\u2018\u2019YAS S\u00dcREC\u0130NDE 5 EVREDEN GE\u00c7\u0130L\u0130YOR\u2019\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n

Psikolog Asl\u0131 \u00d6zsoy Y\u00fccesan derin ac\u0131 hissedilen bu d\u00f6nemin 5 ayr\u0131 evreden olu\u015ftu\u011funu \u015fu s\u00f6zlerle ifade etti: \u2018\u2019 Ki\u015filer, \u00e7ok de\u011fer verdi\u011fi ki\u015finin \u00f6l\u00fcm haberini duydu\u011funda ilk tepkileri; kabul etmemek, b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131k, \u015fok, ret ve ink\u00e2r oluyor. Ancak ink\u00e2r azald\u0131k\u00e7a gerek kendini gerekse ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 su\u00e7lama ve sorgulamalarda art\u0131\u015f ya\u015fan\u0131yor. Sonras\u0131nda vaat etme duygusu olu\u015fuyor. Ard\u0131ndan yaln\u0131zl\u0131ktan korku, \u00f6l\u00fcm d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri, halsizlik, i\u015ftahs\u0131zl\u0131k, bedensel tepkiler, \u00e7aresizlik, anlams\u0131zl\u0131k, bo\u015fluk, karanl\u0131ktan korku ve benzeri tepkiler g\u00f6stererek depresif davranma durumu olu\u015fuyor. Bu duygusal \u00e7alkalanman\u0131n son evresinde ise kabul etme geliyor. \u00d6l\u00fcm\u00fc, sevdi\u011fi ki\u015finin bir daha gelmeyece\u011fini kabul etme, asl\u0131nda hayat\u0131n devam etti\u011finin idrak etti\u011fi noktay\u0131 olu\u015fturuyor. Bu 5 evreden sonra durumu kabullenmi\u015f, normalle\u015ftirmi\u015f olarak hayatlar\u0131na devam ediyorlar.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Uzman Psikolog Asl\u0131 Y\u00fccesan, derin ac\u0131lardan sonra ya\u015fan\u0131lan ac\u0131 s\u00fcrecinin en sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u015fekilde atlat\u0131labilmesi i\u00e7in kad\u0131n ve erkeklerin duygusal ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131na y\u00f6nelik davran\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fine dikkat \u00e7ekti. Y\u00fccesan, erkeklerin hislerini belli etmeden ac\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 ancak kad\u0131nlar\u0131n temas etme ve sar\u0131lma gibi durumlara hislerinin kar\u015f\u0131 tarafa yans\u0131t\u0131lmas\u0131nda daha \u00e7ok ihtiya\u00e7 duyduklar\u0131n\u0131 anlatt\u0131. Ac\u0131badem Eski\u015fehir Hastanesi Uzman Klinik Psikolog […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":48748,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"rank_math_lock_modified_date":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[78],"tags":[1311,1312],"class_list":["post-48749","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yasam","tag-terapi","tag-teselli"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tgrthaber.com\/mavikadin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48749"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tgrthaber.com\/mavikadin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tgrthaber.com\/mavikadin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tgrthaber.com\/mavikadin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tgrthaber.com\/mavikadin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=48749"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.tgrthaber.com\/mavikadin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48749\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":48750,"href":"https:\/\/www.tgrthaber.com\/mavikadin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48749\/revisions\/48750"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tgrthaber.com\/mavikadin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/48748"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tgrthaber.com\/mavikadin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=48749"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tgrthaber.com\/mavikadin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=48749"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tgrthaber.com\/mavikadin\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=48749"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}